What happens when a loss has been so significant that it marks a before and after in our lives?
Grief, in psychological terms, is the natural process that follows the loss of a loved one or the imminence of our own death. A similar process can occur when we lose an equally essential element in our lives, such as a life project (e.g., separation, infertility) or our sense of identity (e.g., retirement, migration).
This process is a natural and expected adaptive reaction and should not be considered an illness. However, its magnitude can impact us so profoundly that we may require professional support.
The enormous void left by these losses can make it feel as though time has stopped. Therapeutic work, as proposed by Carmen Vázquez Bandín, focuses on supporting the restoration of a vital timeline in which both the loss and the life we continue to build—including and starting from it—find their place.
To facilitate this, individuals are accompanied through the different stages of grief, as described by Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and further developed by David Kessler, founder of grief.com. These stages include denial (or shock), anger (including guilt), bargaining (including anxiety), depression, and acceptance. Importantly, acceptance does not signify a return to life as it was before the loss but rather the beginning of an integration of what has happened. These stages are not experienced linearly but often recur in cycles, each repetition allowing for deeper assimilation of the new reality.
The process of grief is unique to each person, and there is no set timeline for its resolution. Individual or group therapy can often provide significant support, particularly as it reminds us that the pain of loss may remain a part of our lives but does not have to equate to ongoing suffering. Over time, we can overcome the suffering and, in many cases, discover the meaning and value that this loss has brought to our lives, as seen in post-traumatic growth.
If your pain is directly or indirectly connected to the losses faced as an expat—leaving behind your home and cultural identity—consider exploring migratory grief treatment. A dedicated calendar is available to schedule a first informational contact through the link on this page.
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