The goal of couples therapy is for the couple to ‘meet’,
that they can activate their resources to allow their needs to be shown to the other party responsibly and honestly.
The goal of couples therapy is for the couple to ‘meet’, i.e., that they can activate their resources to allow their needs to be shown to the other party responsibly and honestly and, therefore, satisfy them as far as possible. We are talking about the need to communicate, for affection, reciprocity, intimacy, trust… etc.
One of the themes to be addressed in couples therapy is our beliefs about what “to be a couple” means. Many couples respond with “living together”, “having sexual intimacy”, etc., and all will be right, although we need to consider that these beliefs are not universal truths that work alike in all couples. Therefore, during our sessions, we will pay attention to:
Being aware that everything I do or stop doing affects the other party. This implies, on the one hand, to realize firsthand the effect of my partner on me and on the other hand, to accept my responsibility for my effect on my partner.
It is necessary to feel the reciprocity because, in a couple, love is NOT unconditional. In this sense, the couple will be reinforced in the process of establishing a series of agreements to accept mutual accountability on “keeping the flame alive”.
Acknowledgment of our beliefs as such, shaping the map of what is acceptable and not acceptable in THIS couple; thus, freeing us from the feeling of shame towards the external judgment. The problems in each couple and how to solve them are their own and the solution might not always be staying together.
A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step
I invite you to get to know me and decide if I could be a good companion on the road.
About me and how my practice offers mental health care to bring a sense of home to nationals and internationals.
Before we meet
Practical information before you start your therapeutic process so we can establish the boundaries of our relationship.
The bridge between the different forms of human suffering we face and the therapeutic support to alleviate it.
Once your need for support has been addressed, you can decide which setting seems most appropriate for you to begin your journey to feeling better.
Psychology within Reach
3544 DB Utrecht
Phone +31 30 636 8981
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